As a person recently and unceremoniously dumped via text message, i need a good pick me up. I'm tired of listening to all the songs that remind me of how much i love and miss him...i want angry "i hate you're ass and wish you would die" songs...songs that will help me move on...i need therapy people.

I have a good angry "i wish you would die" song for you: seventy times 7 by brand new. It' s kind of violent but as one of my friends said as we were listening to it one day sometimes you feel that way when you've been dumped. I especially can think of one line in the song that goes " Have a drink as you drive yourself home, Hope there's ice on all the roads, Hope you think of me as you forget your seatbelt, And again when your head goes through the windshield." Belt it out when your in your car by yourself. Great therapy.

I was dumped a year ago, he had 3 people he knew die wtihin 1 week and I was pms-ing that week. I got on his case about NOTHING, just something little, which was not the norm for us, we rarely argued, I had such respect for him because he is a genuinely nice guy. He totally cut me off, not responding to only a couple calls and emails (I had amazing self-control). It was the last thing I expected from a guy like him. It was very hard not having much of an explanation. After a couple months of wanting to just lay around and drown in my sorry, I have been doing very well, happy, busy, content this past year, embracing my friends and not bouncing to another guy. I made the mistake of thinking I had it so together, that I could email him and apologize for whatever I said to hurt his feelings and that my love for him was true, and I wished him well. I NEVER expected a response, expected to be ignored as it has been this whole year. I about fell off my chair when he responded the next morning! And not just a response, but this:

"I was really happy to hear from you...I think of you all the time. My love for you was, and still is real. I've never quite recovered, nor have had any interest in anyone else. I'm sorry for the hurt I caused you. So much happened in such a short period of time. I never expected anyone to understand that series of losses and it's impact on me.

I'd love to see you...ICSBYM"

I thought the acrynim stood for 'I can still be your man', but he hasn't responded for a day and a half to my lighthearted response. So maybe it stands for 'I care still, but your mean' or 'I can't still be your man'