Supposedly there are 7 stages of grief, the second being pain and guilt, following the first, shock or denial. As recover-from-grief.com describes it: "As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs. ... [+]

Supposedly there are 7 stages of grief, the second being pain and guilt, following the first, shock or denial. As recover-from-grief.com describes it: "As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase." [-]